Many Bengali girls remain unmarried even after reaching marriageable age because of their excessive demands, most of which are unrealistic. Most Bengali girls do not consider black men and those who do not have service in government sector as suitable for lifelong partners.
Currently, there is a trend among Bengali girls that their life partner should be as handsome and full of all qualities as a film artist. But the reality is that a person cannot have all the qualities, even if I talk about film stars Shah Rukh Khan or Salman, they also do not have all the qualities and what we see in them is on the screen, but in reality their lives are black and white just like us common people. A wise person once said that a person who has too many needs can never be happy in the end. Nowadays, there is a tendency among many educated women that they are never satisfied without finding all the qualities in a man and that is why they do not get married at all or in many cases, even if they do get married, their marriages end up getting divorced very quickly. Many girls are heard saying that their life partner should not be black, but the saddest thing is that their father or grandfather is black. There are many girls who are not willing to consider anyone as their husband except a government servant. That is probably why many girls are not getting married. If this continues, society will face a huge crisis after a while because society is losing its balance.
In fact, our life is completely simple. There may be colorful events here and there for a while, but the rest of life is black and white, which many girls cannot accept. They always want their life to be like a three-hour movie with good dancing, singing, good dialogues, etc. But in reality, this is never possible. In fact, it happens when a girl does not reach maturity, then she imagines such unrealistic things. Another name for life is adjustment. It is not limited to marriage but involves every decision related to life. If you cannot make adjustments, then you will never be happy or successful in life. This is because life does not happen according to everyone’s own decisions. It depends on karma and God Himself plays the ultimate decisive role in this. In other words, in this case, you should not think that everything will be according to my own mind. Depending on nature, a person will be black or fair, or will be disabled or have a beautiful body. Although the karma of that person is responsible for it, he cannot be directly called guilty. And if we become so demanding, then it is certain that we will never be happy in life. I repeat what I said once again, that life is an adjustment and we have to survive it by making adjustments.
Currently, many girls in Bengali society are unmarried. Even after they have passed the age of marriage, they actually have so many needs in their minds that the world can never fulfill those needs. As a result, they have to spend their entire lives single and along with that, they have to face all the adversities of the world. I have a neighbor who is now an old woman. I heard that she was extremely demanding at a young age, so she never got married. She is currently living on disability and has no one to stand by her side. It’s sad to hear that it’s true that you can never be completely happy after coming into this world. There are some things you have to accept if you want to leave this world with a smile on your face. We are responsible for the fact that our society is becoming so dirty today. When I was a child, I used to see many boys and girls spending their private time in the park. Later, when this had an impact on the society, those boys and girls blamed each other. If they spent their private time in their own way before marriage, it would never be right and as a result, a time will come when everyone in the society will not be virgin. In fact, we have made this simple life much more complicated and now it has become so complicated that it is beyond our control. The reality is that the less you expect from this life, the better because this life is never able to give you the results you expect. You have to accept that, this is the ultimate reality.
The problem with marriage today for both boys and girls is that the boy complains that the woman may have had many previous relationships, while the woman complains that the boy is not physically fit or is in a financially important position. In fact, both sides are at fault. They are busy finding fault with each other but do not believe in adjustment, which is why both sides will have to suffer. Marriage is like a situation where you have to jump off a very high cliff into a chasm. You don’t know what’s there. If you’re lucky, you’ll survive. Otherwise, you’ll die. Those who can make this jump and if they are lucky will succeed. The rest will stand on top and wait, wondering what lies below. They are not really fit to fight in life. Marriage is one thing where planning is of no use. It depends on fate whether you will live a happy and peaceful life after marriage or if trouble awaits you. You cannot play any positive role in this matter, so it is best to leave this matter entirely to God and do your work. If your luck is good, then you will definitely get happiness. And if you do not get happiness, you have to accept that as your destiny and make adjustments to it and survive life. This is life. This is reality. There is nothing beyond it.
